Becoming a Woman of Wisdom and Grace

The daily life, struggles and victories of a Godly Woman.

  • The Importance of Open Communication with God

    The Importance of Open Communication with God

    Do you think God cares what we talk about when we pray or is he just happy we are praying? This is something I have had questions on for awhile now. Sometimes I’m thankful for things, sometimes I ask for things and sometimes I just don’t even have words so I just kind of ramble. Prayer is our main connection with God though. I’ve struggled in asking are my prayers “good enough”?

    I believe that all prayer is heard by God. That He is there waiting for us to make time for Him. He listens to everything and anything we have to say.

    Jeremiah 33:3 says “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.”

    This is what is called God’s phone number. Call on Him and He will answer. To me this means Pray and He will always hear you. Then it goes on to say He will show you so many great things that we can’t even think of. He will answer in ways you have never even imagined. Now, it might not always be in the way you want it to go, but trust the process. When you trust Him, His plans are always better than what you even imagined.

    Proverbs 19:21 states that “Many are the plans in a persons heart, but it is the Lords purpose that prevails”.

    Lets go back to wisdom over pride from yesterday. The Proverbs 31 Woman can laugh at what is to come because she knows Gods plan is greater than her own. That is true Wisdom, trusting God to work in your life and not leaning on your own understanding.

    Our prayers should reflect that. Say the things you want to happen, thank Him for the things that have happened and then tell Him how you will trust whatever His plan for your life is. Give it all to Him in prayer. He wants your ALL, not just a small portion of your day.

    All in all leave the day open for prayer. Be honest and have integrity because he knows your heart. Last of all trust His plans above your own. He will never lead you astray.

  • From Pride to Wisdom

    From Pride to Wisdom

    Have you ever thought about how when we achieve a goal, we want to become prideful of it? We want to show it off. Our pride makes us want everyone else to be proud of us too. In reality we are looking for validation from others rather than showing God our adoration and gratitude for Salvation.

    In Proverbs 11:2 it states, “When pride comes, then comes shame; but with the humble there is wisdom.”

    So lets dig into how this ties into becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman.

    Have you ever heard the saying, “Pride comes before the fall?” In becoming a better version of ourselves, we don’t want to fall, right? We want to gain wisdom to go farther. To do that though, we have to remain humble. Humility doesn’t always come out as popular choice but the gain in the long-run is far greater than anything you can imagine.

    The definition of Pride is a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from ones own achievements, the achievements of these with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. This sounds more self serving than serving God. Pride is all about how does this make me look or does this show I am better mentality. That’s not who we are called to be. We are called to be humble and give our gratitude to God for the things he gives us.

    Humility by definition is the quality of having a modest view of ones value or importance. Its a lack of arrogance. Its serving God but not bragging about it. Being humble is about choosing to let the things just happen and giving praise to God for it. Its an act of servitude towards Him. According to the definition, it focusing on your own things while growing and not worrying if others see.

    There are always times that we let pride take over. We don’t stop it because it makes us feel better. The on side of pride is the dopamine hit every time someone congratulates or likes/comments on a post. The other side of pride is not bending to another person. Its holding strong just to prove a point. Making sure other people feel it.

    When its spelled out like this its easy to see why we should be humble. But why cant we do it on a daily basis? Why is it so easy to let pride take over?

    Pride can give us a sense of security. When in turn we should have security in God to take care of us. We use pride like a shield to protect us, give us strength and ultimately hide behind. If we are prideful, others cant hurt us. We aren’t vulnerable to truth or others because our pride blocks it out and makes us feel good.

    Taking humility in situations gives us self reflection, vulnerability and true strength in knowing we can grow from every situation. These things will take you farther than pride ever could. This is why being humble is repeated so many times in the Bible. Humility is letting God protect us, defend us and move us forward.

    All in all, we should pursue humility in all aspects of life. It will help us in having noble character like it says in Proverbs 31:10. So the next time you post a photo, get in an argument, talk about plans you have or sit there and start to think how you are better than others, remember Humility. Slow down and think before you do or say the things.

    Pride will bring downfall eventually, but humility will bring you wisdom and grace. That is all we should be searching for in this life, wisdom and grace from God. This is what I will be working on because like I said before, we all fail sometimes and that’s OK. Realize It, Resolve It and Move Forward from It. God’s grace and mercy is there waiting for us.

  • Is it OK to fail sometimes?

    Is it OK to fail sometimes?

    I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman, but sometimes I need Gods grace and mercy to get me through.

    Have you ever found yourself starting the day right, doing all of the things and being on time? Just knowing that the day will flow the way you want it to, for it all to go downhill with a little bit of overthinking. Too much time on our hands or really its making time for the things we don’t even need to.

    Lets face it, we live in a world today that we reach for our phones before anything else. We need that dopamine hit before we start our day, a task or even just when we are sitting with family. Will we ever learn that dopamine hit can also turn the opposite direction for us depending on our algorithm or just looking into another persons profile?

    Yesterday I had a spiral effect to the day. Everything started good. I had good intentions towards my husband, kids and ultimately God. I knew I wanted to do my devotional, not pick up my phone and move accordingly. But after planning it all in my head, I still out of habit picked up my phone to see what time it was. My mistake, because that’s where it starts. It wasn’t just to see the time, it turned into my fingers just moving to the apps. Checking messages, looking at Facebook and Instagram and reading all the post that set your mood back to what you wanted to get past.

    So after all of that moving on the phone, the time was gone. It was late and we had to rush to get ready. Not only that but the doubts were creeping in. “Why did I let myself do that? Now I am late, my kids will be crabby about getting ready. I might have to yell.” All of the things. Not to mention, the doubts on “what is my husband hiding? Is there someone else taking his attention? Where has our intimacy gone?”

    All of these thoughts get into your mind and create themselves a home. We can sometimes mistake them for wisdom. Sometimes make them out to be truth and in reality turn our calm into a storm.

    That is exactly what I let happen. I yelled at my kids, I was rushing and I sent my husband all the text about my overthinking. I really laid into him on things that I probably should have used grace and wisdom to calm myself in.

    Now, thinking back on it, I am ashamed of how I acted. These things break pieces holding your family together. I FAILED yesterday. It lead to fighting last night and not resolving anything because I hit buttons I didn’t need to. I let anger about the past guide my feelings towards what could happen in the future and ultimately solved nothing.

    This is why Grace is so important. We all have bad days, we all lose hope in things from time to time, but grace from God and your partner is what gets you through. We are human, all imperfect just trying our best to walk in Gods grace (failing most of the time).

    Corinthians 12:9 states “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefor I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

    Hebrews 4:16 states ” Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

    There are many more verses that show grace and mercy when we fall but those are just a couple.

    Last night, I gave it to God. I wanted sleep and I wanted peace. I apologized to my husband (which is still a work in progress for some of the things said and done) but I also said that God will handle it. Now this morning, it was still an issue, but patience is key in this. Gods grace and mercy aren’t instant. I needed to know that I was wrong and I still needed to work on things, mainly being respect but that is a different subject for a different day.

    Gods grace and mercy has calmed me today, it has made me focus on things that will benefit me in the long run. Ways to be better. Things that benefit my future rather than hinder it. Understanding Grace and Mercy are the first steps to working towards becoming a Proverbs 31 woman.

    So yes, its OK to fail sometimes as long as you Realize It, Resolve It and Move Forward from It. Look to God for Grace and Mercy. Pray about the issue, realize how things went wrong and ways to correct it and apologize to those that you hurt along the way.