Becoming a Woman of Wisdom and Grace

You are worthy!

We are all created in Gods image. Your worth is not based on your performance. Gods love is unconditional. The mistakes you make don’t change that God made you with inherent dignity and value. We cant base our value on achievements or failures, its only based on His love for us and price He paid. No matter what past you have, Gods love is always there.

Its been a little over a year since my baptism. I had things in my past that I thought didn’t matter, that I didn’t really take care of myself the way I should have. I felt like I wasn’t worthy of God, but I also looked at it like I was worthy in the worlds eyes.

My life was very fast pace before. After acting how I wanted in high school to being with someone for years in a life I thought was love but ended in deep therapy sessions. I had one daughter, a divorce and string of past mistakes. Then falling right back into patterns of how I knew I wanted to be treated but I didn’t act the way I should have to make that happen. I met the person I am with now.

We didn’t start off the best way and that is probably why we have had such a rough road. There was nothing serious when we met, but then I wanted something serious. He played along with it but wasn’t fully there. Then I got pregnant. That slowed everything down for me. I wanted more for my life, to have my family, change myself and work on my relationship with God.

In our life, we don’t think about how past decisions can affect our future self. We are called to be like Christ and fall short of that daily. However, I’m so glad that God is not holding us to a specific time frame or way to get things right with Him. His grace and mercy are what gets us back on track after going through bad times.

He is always there watching and waiting. Giving you choices to make and see how and where you are at in your relationship with Him. To see us seriously seeking Him, not just asking for forgiveness after the fact and then going to do it again.

With our worldly view, we like to look at peoples past as who they are. Have you ever stopped to think though that who they were in the past isn’t who they are now? I mean yes, some things they might still be working on, but that is them with God, being better every day. Once we are saved we are set free of the chains we have. Do we not owe it to others to see how God is working in their life as well?

Yes! Everyone deserves to be seen for where they are at now and not by their past. If they are moving forward every day with God, we should be sending thankful prayers up for them. If we see them backsliding, we should send up strengthening prayers for them. No need to even tell them you saw and are praying, just little bits of encouraging talk like “I’ve seen your progress” or “Look at you and God go.”

Because just like everyone, we all have to keep praying for each other. We all have to encourage each other to reach into the word and talk to God to obtain strength to move forward.

To do this, we have to rely on Gods strength for power to overcome the past. I talk to Him every day about mine and how I can improve as a good partner, mother and friend. Changes are sometimes small but they are always there. Now I see more clearly when I am about to backslide or when I actually do backslide. That’s where the choices come in. I look at it as “if I make this decision now, how will this go later” type of way. Its getting easier and easier to resist the temptations and know what God is calling our in my life next to be changed.

Next we have to truly believe in our identity in Christ. Know that we are precious, chosen and complete in Him. That we are worthy in His eyes. We don’t need validation from the world. We just have to continue our work in Him.

Embracing your purpose is the only way to fully move forward. Use your past as a way to help you. With God on your side, your life means everything. You can use your past and knowledge as a ministry for Him. Your past is no longer holding you back in the same patterns. Its helping you and others to be free and move forward.

Sometimes we look at being a Proverbs 31 woman as an “out of our reach” type of thing. Its not though. Once you are baptized in Jesus name, your slate is wiped clean, you have been redeemed and all your chains are broken. You are free again. You have the ability to turn your life around and be that woman!