Becoming a Woman of Wisdom and Grace

We often struggle with how the Bible says the man is “The Leader” while the wife is “The Helper”. These two things are correct but how does that play out in providing for your household?

The world wants us to say, “women can do it all, alone.” That the woman doesn’t need a man to survive. While this can be true in many ways, its not how we were designed and destined to become. Women are the support to the man in his decisions. We have intuition about people, we see things coming and we plan ahead. Its how we are designed to be and we know how well we read people and situations. Men don’t have that, God designed us to help protect in that way.

The Bible doesn’t say anything about women staying home and not working. It simply states that there are certain roles we have. These roles that we now refer to as “gender roles” are specifically that. Both sides have to perform their roles to make it work.

1 TImothy 5:8 says ” If anyone does not provide for his own and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”

Partnerships are teamwork. Making things possible. Working together to create the home and build the life that you both want. The life that God wants for you all.

Ephesians 5:25-27 says “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; That He might sanctify and cleanse it with washing of water by the word, That He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.”

Now, the man is called to lay down his life for the wife. The wife is called to be submissive to that protection/provision. Acknowledging this will make it work. He has to be willing to die to himself in the ways of ego, pride and ambition to place the wife above those.

1 Timothy 3:4-5 states “He must manage his own family well, with all dignity and respect, keeping his children submissive and respectful.”

He must oversee the household. The wife helps with everything because they are a team, but he oversees it. Its just like Christ is over the Church, which is His bride. We are members doing things to help but ultimately for Christ. None of it is for personal gain, its all for living our the life God has given us and being up to the standard he expects us to be.

The Proverbs 31 woman is an example of a woman that worked. She helped with her own money she had made. She moves to serve her husband and family to be the ultimate “helper.”

Even if your family has gotten “off track” as they say, there is always a way. (Joel 2:25-26) God will make that way if you look to Him for guidance. It has to be your team though. Its not about who makes more, who makes less or what you bring to the table. Its about you both working together to build the table and focusing on what God will bring to it through your faithfulness.